How to do it: While lying down, one partner curls up to fit their body along the other's back side. But there is something romantic about turning a cuddle into some bed-rocking action before you've fully woken up. The spooning position isn't just for morning sex. How to do it: Lie down on a soft surface, facing each other in opposite directions and aligning your bodies so each partner's mouth can reach the others' genitals. "You can enjoy the closeness of spooning and the fun of mouth-to-genital play at the same time." "Sideways 69 allows you to give and receive oral play while you’re positioned on your sides," says McLaughlin. "From this position, a woman can easily slide down between their partner's legs and give them some oral pleasure, or move her hips up over their face to enjoy some cunnilingus," Ghose says. She then guides her partner's penis or strap-on into her and initiates the movement. The other partner rises up on her knees and either flings a leg across their partner's hips, or straddles them at the feet and inches up their body with one knee on each side. How to do it: The penetrating partner lies on their back, sits up on the edge of the bed, or leans back against a wall or headboard.
Ghose adds that this is a good position for pregnancy sex, as well. "These positions also emphasize a woman’s pleasure, as they suggest that she knows how to please herself and is happy to take the reins, 'riding' her partner as a cowgirl rides a bucking horse or bull." Yee-haw, indeed. "This position offers a lot of variety, and the woman has more control over rhythm, vigor, and depth of penetration," explains Moushumi Ghose, therapist and author of Classic Sex Positions Reinvented: Your Favorite Sex Positions - 100 Wild and Erotic Ways. This is a basic woman-on-top position-as opposed to backwards cowgirl, where the female sex partner faces away from her partner during penetration. Chair sex is a fun way to experience new sensations, even without mild acrobatics. If The Laptop feels beyond the limits of you or your partner's coordination, no need to tempt a trip to urgent care for X-rays. "If you need to feel more stable, a slight variation would be to sit on a countertop or table and lean back onto your hands." "You can grasp your partner's neck to help maintain your balance, but he or she should hold your lower back for support," Baritchi advises. Rest the backs of your knees on your partner’s shoulders, and your calves and feet on or over the back of a chair. The partner penetrating with their penis or toy sits in a (sturdy!) chair with his or her feet flat on the floor, while the other partner sits on their lap, facing them. How to do it: This one involves a bit of flexibility. "There’s nothing more intimate than face-to-face, slow, deep penetration sex, and this position is one of my favorites," says Jennifer Baritchi, co-author of The Big Black Book of Sex Positions: Take Your Sex Life From Boring To Mind-Blowing in a Few More Than 69 Moves The vulnerability, goofiness, and even messiness of sex can bolster intimacy, if we let them." And as any tantric sex expert will tell you, the big "O" doesn't have to be the goal having fun is. "If you try something new and it’s a flop, that can be positive, too," says August McLaughlin, author of GirlBoner: The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexual Empowerment. So why not change up your positions once in awhile? Yet research has shown time and again that trying new things together-both in and out of bed-helps keep the spark alive. Like all types of consensual sex, a routine that works is A-OK, and there's nothing wrong with sticking to the trusted missionary position, which can also be intimate. Some couples are happy with the occasional mutually-satisfying quickie, or a regularly-scheduled weekend session that relies on the same ol' reliable positions to get the job done (the "job" means an orgasm, in case that wasn't clear.) Others may rely on their trusty vibrators or an exciting toy every time. Exploring intimate sex positions can be a great way to reconnect with your partner, or cement a growing bond in a new romance.